Public meeting on “ Proposed Mumbai development Plan"

VARISHTHA NAGRIK SEVA SANSTHA

Marigold Hall, Tholiya Bhavan, 10th Road, Next to Regency Hotel,

Near Vakola Highway Signal, Santacruz East, Mumbai – 400 055 Tel. 9324225699 / atholiya@gmail.com http://varishthanagrik.blogspot.in/

INVITATION TO TO ATTEND 269TH MEETING

FREE ENTRY

Topic : Public meeting at above Hall on “ Proposed Mumbai development Plan and its implications on TPS3 and Vakola, santacruz east” .

Speaker: Architect and Expert on DP Shri Arun Joglekar

Venue: above hall

Tea and snacks:  4.30 pm to 5.00 PM (Sponsor: Shri Paresh Vora)

Meeting: 5.00 to 7.00 pm

Day and Date: Friday, 3rd April 2015

All are cordially Invited.

Note: This is totally non political group.And all residents of Santacruz East can take benefit irrespective of any party affiliation.

Sincerely yours

Alok Tholiya

Hariram Chowdhury

Kamlesh Bhathena

Paresh Vora

Shilpa Dharod

Bharat Vishwakarma

Anil Verma

Benefits to VNSS members:

•  DISCOUNTS AT CHEMIST SHOPS

• We have patients bed , wheelchair, walkers, tripod etc for patients.

Senior citizens can get priority hearing in courts..A circular issued on December 3 2013

MUMBAI, DEC 8:  

For the convenience of senior citizens, Bombay High Court has decided to give priority in its roster to the cases where at least one of the parties is above sixty years old, if such a request is made by the concerned party.

A circular issued on December 3 2013, signed by the Registrar General of High court, says that Chief Justice and other Judges of the Bombay High Court, after have directed that precedence be given to the cases wherein senior citizens are involved.

“The Chief Justice and Judges have now directed that precedence be given by courts for hearing and final disposal of the cases wherein one of the parties has attained the age of sixty years and above,” it says.

This circular replaces a circular issued in 1999, whereby precedence was to be given to persons above 65.

“The courts may grant such an indulgence on written request,” added the circular.

The direction would be implemented at all the benches of the High Court and at the subordinate courts in the state.

Principal Judge of Bombay City Civil and Sessions court Shalini Phansalkar-Joshi has issued direction that the circular should be followed.

(This article was published on December 8, 2013)

http://www.thehindubusinessline.com/news/states/senior-citizens-can-get-priority-hearing-in-courts/article5436651.ece

Do You Resent Being a Caregiver?......Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD

If you’re caring for a loved one – an ill parent, a spouse, a child with special needs – you might agree that caregiving, even when it’s from the heart, can include complicated emotions. Sadness, frustration, guilt and anger are all common. And these emotions sometimes grow into resentment, which only makes the care-taking role more difficult.

If you can identify the source of your resentment, or (better yet) identify rising frustrations, you can address your feelings and take steps toward positive change. Here are a few common reasons for feeling resentful, and ways to cope with them:

Guilt over-flow: You might struggle with feeling that you can not do enough for your loved one, or you may feel guilty about your desires to do some things for yourself. The reality is that in many situations, no one can do enough to turn the tide of events or take away all of the pain and difficulties of your loved one. So, in a sense, no one can do enough.

Accepting your limits can go a long way toward freeing you of guilt and resentment as you take care of your other responsibilities, care for yourself, and allow in the necessary emotional and practical support from others.

Not getting expected help from others: You might have expected support from other family members, only to find yourself essentially alone as a caregiver. Others may even fail to come through if you ask directly for help. As a result, you might understandably feel increasing resentment.

If you have only hinted at your need for help, then consider trying the direct approach – it could yield surprising results. However, if you’ve asked family or others close to you for help and your attempts have fallen flat, then you need to come to terms with that. Work on accepting the situation, even if you are not happy about it. Then move on. This might mean going it alone or engaging the help of others, such as professional aids or other supportive services.

An impossible situation: Your position may feel incredibly painful, and there may be obstacles that prevent you from doing more. As a result, you may experience growing resentment, which could lead to feeling negatively toward your loved one.  It’s important to remain aware that you resent the situation, not the person you want to care for. To help you gain or maintain this perspective, reach out to others for support.

Caring for someone who was unkind to you: One of the more difficult situations you might face is feeling responsible to care for someone who was unkind, or even abusive, to you. This often arises with those who need to care for aging parents, but it occurs in other relationships, too. If you decide that caring for this person is the right thing to do, keep in mind that you are living according to your values. Focus on the person you are and find others who can support you in your efforts.

In each of these situations, if you are having a difficult time breaking loose of your resentments, don’t be too hard on yourself. Pause and consider how you would respond to someone else going through the same struggles you’re experiencing. Then apply the same understanding and compassion to yourself. Remember, to be a good caregiver, you must be sure to care for yourself, too.

Thanks to :http://blogs.webmd.com/art-of-relationships/2015/01/do-you-resent-being-a-caregiver.html?ecd=wnl_sxr_011715&ctr=wnl-sxr-011715_nsl-promo_3&mb=37dz9PaVSpmjqdfYp%40TOnuHnVev1imbCkGiMegP%2f4k0%3d

The truth, as disclosed by a group of old folks

Ourselves, ourselves, only ourselves

(The truth, as disclosed by a group of old folks)

 

A GENERAL BIT OF ADVICE

 

• Have your own abode. No matter what, do not lose it, until your death!
• If you have an old companion, keep each other good company.
• Watch your health while it is still good.
• Maintain a positive outlook and you will be happy.
• Now, our health is still good, our mind still clear.
• But on whom can we depend in our old age?

 

We will have to analyse in various stages.

 

1st Stage:

• Just after retirement, between 60 to 70 yrs old, our health will still be comparatively good. So too our financial means.
• Eat moderately while we have the means. At times, wear what we fancy.
• Those who like it, have some fun.
• Do not be hard on yourself
• Our days are numbered, so, grasp the opportunity.
• Have some savings!
• Keep the house!
• Make arrangements for the days ahead or retreat.
• If the kids are well off, it is their business ...
• If the kids are filial, they have good traits ....
• We need neither decline financial help from our kids nor decline their respect.
• But we should remain independent and live our own life well.

 

2nd Stage:

• If no mishap and illness strike after we are 70, we will still be able to take care of ourselves. Not a major problem.
• However, we must realise we are really getting old gradually, our body and mind will give way.
• Our reflexes will slow down with time.
• We will have to eat slowly, to avoid choking.
• We will have to walk slowly, to avoid falls.
• We can no longer put on a front, we have to look after ourselves!
• Do not meddle anymore with this and that, or control the kids!
• Some even interfere with the third generation!!!
• We have intervened our entire life, It is time for us to be a little selfish!
• Take hold of ourselves. Life must come full circle.
• Help with the cleaning chores.
• Try to maintain our health for as long as possible.
• Give ourselves more opportunities to take control of our own life.
• We lead an easier life when we do not have to solicit help from others.

 

3rd Stage:

• Our health begins to fail. We have to request help from others. We have to be mentally prepared for it.
• The majority of us cannot escape this hurdle.
• We have to prepare ourselves, emotionally, to accept that in life, living and aging, sickness and death are milestones we have to encounter.
• This is the final stage in life.
• Nothing to fear!
• Be prepared for it in advance and we will not be too depressed.
• Either check into a private nursing home or an old folks home.
• Depending on affordability, of course.
• There must be a way out.
• The idea is not to add to the kids'; burden, emotionally, increase their chores and their financial commitments.
• Try our best to overcome -
• What hardship has our generation not endured?
• What disasters have we not experienced?
• Trust us to take life';s last lap in our stride.

 

4th Stage:

• Our mind is still clear, but we are terminally ill, when our quality of life has deteriorated drastically.
• We must be courageous enough to face death!
• Insist that the family not try to prolong our life: Do not incur unnecessary expenditure.

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Sex after 60's................from Baidynath

Sex after 60's................from Baidynath

Sat Aug 9, 2014 10:07 am (PDT) . Posted by:

"Alok Tholiya" tholiya

* Sex after 60's*

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persists in the area sex & sexuality" observed a renowned sex therapist.
The widely accepted cultural dogma that sexual interaction between older
persons is not only socially unacceptable, but may be physically harmful,
results in thousands of men & women withdrawing from active sexual
expression every year. This results in impotence.

It is true you can’t do at 60 what you did at 20. As a man grows older, he
walks slow, he talks slow. One needs to remember that this is a normal
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functioning to various degrees of impotence. the misconception that "sex
after 60 is not possible" needs to be changed. Men & women can continue to
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in sound physical and mental health. The common reasons for a reduced sex
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Monotony and loss of interest
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Changes in physical appearance
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Misconception about one’s waning sexuality
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Lack of communication
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10 documents to secure before you die

Documents to secure

IMPORTANT FOR AL OF US... Keep these essential papers in place and inform at least one family member so that your heirs don';t have to run from pillar to post to inherit what is rightfully theirs.   1) Primary documents  These include your birth certificate, marriage certificate, PAN card, passport, election ID card and the Aadhaar card. Will be needed when transferring assets to your heirs.  2) Insurance details  The purpose of life insurance will be defeated if your family is in the dark. Make a list of all the policies, mentioning the name of insurers, policy numbers, insured sums and the tenures.  3) Pension documents  If you have an NPS account, mention the account number and nomination details. Give the pension account number with your employer.  4) Property papers  All property-related documents  should be in one place. If the property is mortgaged, keep photocopies. Mention the loan account number and the latest outstanding amount. If property is insured, mention policy coverage.  5) Bank account details  Make a list of various bank accounts, giving the name of the bank, the account number, holding pattern and the nomination details.  6) Bank locker details  Mention the name of bank, locker number, ownership pattern and whereabouts of the key. Maintain an inventory of items kept in the locker and update every time you operate it.  7) Demat account details  Give the name of depository partner, demat account number and nomination details. If possible, update the details of the securities in the demat account.  8) Other investments  Give details of the PPF account  and folio numbers of other post office investments. Make a list of mutual fund investments, mentioning folio numbers, ownership pattern and nomination details.  9) Loans and Receivables  If you have taken or given private loans to relatives or friends, mention the amount and the date by when these are payable/receivable.  10) Online 10 passwords  Though these are to be kept secret, keep a list for emergency reference. Mention the website, the online ID and the password.  Keep this in mind  This information is to be kept secret and accessed only if the main breadwinner of the family has either died or is in a medical emergency.  Make sure to update the information regularly. How often you do this depends on your convenience and the changes in investments.  The information listed above is very basic. you may want to add more details of other assets along the same lines.  You may want to make an online version of this information as well, but make sure it is on a secure site.

Senior citizens can get priority hearing in courts

PTI  

MUMBAI, DEC 8:  

For the convenience of senior citizens, Bombay High Court has decided to give priority in its roster to the cases where at least one of the parties is above sixty years old, if such a request is made by the concerned party.

A circular issued on December 3, signed by the Registrar General of High court, says that Chief Justice and other Judges of the Bombay High Court, after have directed that precedence be given to the cases wherein senior citizens are involved.

“The Chief Justice and Judges have now directed that precedence be given by courts for hearing and final disposal of the cases wherein one of the parties has attained the age of sixty years and above,” it says.

This circular replaces a circular issued in 1999, whereby precedence was to be given to persons above 65.

“The courts may grant such an indulgence on written request,” added the circular.

The direction would be implemented at all the benches of the High Court and at the subordinate courts in the state.

Principal Judge of Bombay City Civil and Sessions court Shalini Phansalkar-Joshi has issued direction that the circular should be followed.

(This article was published on December 8, 2013)

http://www.thehindubusinessline.com/news/states/senior-citizens-can-get-priority-hearing-in-courts/article5436651.ece