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for sure v will be old 1 day but r v prepared????Alok

 

No one tells you this except ……Alok ……..
Delete if u r sure u will never live to be old :
Whatever is left behind unutilized after your death is the wastefulhard work and wasteful saving done by you….read on


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No one tells you this except ……Alok ……..

No one tells you this except ……Alok ……..

Delete if u r sure u will never live to be old :

Whatever is left behind unutilized after your death is the wasteful  hard work and wasteful saving done by you….read on 

 

* U = anyone who is about to be going old including me.

Yes I am growing old fast. Are you aging too?????  ……do we have these things in mind before we really become dependent on family?

My one lady relative in Amer was on bed for years.  Another relative was bedridden for more than 7 years. You must have seen paralyzed, affected with parkinsonism, paraplegic, affected with dementia, sight lost, legs cut due to gangrene, diabetes, brain dead, stroke, Cancer, HIV  etc etc… but no one thinks this can happen to ….

My own mother was ailing for 3 yrs. My Daddy is also not well for last 3 months. In old age/ when u are ailing / bed ridden:

 

1.      U* need someone who can give valuable time to ailing old U.  Do you have that someone??

 

2.      U need to talk/ chit chat  ( while your hearing will be  poor, you may develop  cognitive difficulties, u can't understand what they r saying, they get irritated, angry ( and most likely u r irritated, angry, blaming, dissatisfied) , but still u need someone to give time, chit chat, listen. Do you have that someone??

 

3.      Ailing oldies forget sense of hygiene and they may do bed wetting, they need to use bed pot/ pan, their eyes, mouth, hands have to be washed by someone??? Do you have that someone??

 

 

4.      In old age U may need to be on diapers which will cost about Rs. 6000/- p.m. and another Rs.  6000 to 18000 pm u may be required to spend on bai /maid / helper if u don't have someone from family to do this necessary work or you may be lying in shit and su su for hours. Are you prepared??

 

5.      You have to be given medicines time to time. My daddy is on about 15 tablets to be given at different times. How does one remember?? Before meals, after meals, after tea time, before sleeping, if u have acidity then this additional if you have weakness then this too, if there is a fever then that too etc etc.  Luckily now medicine scheduler plastic boxes are available in market. But to use that too u need help of someone who has time and inclination. Are you ready for all this with that someone? That someone cud be ur son, daughter,  daughter in law, grand children, neighbour , old trusted friend, old reliable staff or u should be willing to pay for hired maid which costs Rs 15000/- for a month ( Rs 250/- per shift per day x 2 shift x 30days ) .Are u prepared.

 

 

6.      Your vision may go weak. Your body may  shiver, legs may tremble , you may easily get off balance and fall so :

a)      You have to keep walking area, passages, toilets etc obstruction free for walk and have to keep them well lit.

b)     You have to keep rods / support bar etc fitted in toilets.

c)      Toilets/ passages should be motorable (popularly known as handicap access) ?? Meaning if need be then your wheel chair must be able to move easily.

d)     You must have sufficient place to store sticks/ tripods/wheel chair/ pots/ pans etc .

e)      You must have (too ambitious idea??) a nice sit out/ chowk/ common area with sun rise and sun set and other activities (home or on road) visible or u will die in suffocation in kal Kothari??  My grandfather used to sit in sit out which is about 150 sq feet on first floor facing highway. Morning sun and evening set was easily visible. The staircase approach was from that sit out. Anyone coming or going from our floor would see him and talk to him. He would have tea with other neighbors' there. He would keep Mishri in a bottle (say sugar candy) and distribute to small children in building who would visit him when he was sitting alone in sit out. Then children's will play around him and thus he cud pass time easily. He was a serious reader of newspaper and kept himself updated. Once my friend Manoj visited me and as I was away he had to wait for me for a long time. Dadaji (Grandfather) started chatting with him. When I came Manoj told me that at this age of 95 yrs Dadaji has all latest info and was even discussing about my career in pharma besides on other latest topics. He would sit for 2 to 3 hours in meditation and mala japana.   

Have u taken care of all this?????????? Can u meditate and spend ur few hours daily, can u befriend young, children in some attractive / impressive way? Do your well-wishers have access to you?? I find most flats are so made that even interested well wisher too cant visit u without disturbing all in family which neither visitor nor family members (I won't dare / inappropriately blame bahu / daughter in law).So a sr. citizen is dumped ( ???) . That would be  wrong to say as when he was about to be a senior citizen at that time he  did not select right house / room, he failed to plan his old / ailing phase and thus  he can't see many faces, does not  get opportunity to talk to various people / talk on various topics , can't see activity of family/ neighbors'/ road.  

 

7.      Even if you don't have sufficient balance/ assets but need not disclose and if u have then too sleep over it. Keep sufficient bank balances, assets etc in your name and make a will which is not disclosed. Even Osho said money is not everything but it does have its own power, strength and warmness. Without it u may be left to chill high and dry.

 

8.      Keep very good relations with those friends, relatives, neighbors ,staff  who have time for you , who will visit you often or wish for your well being and or do something ( by word, deed or other means) things which will improve your comfort*** , check if things (without hurting your own family members) are all right .

But normally I have seen one likes to mix with high funda , HS ( high society) , high post  persons, persons who charm you with their post ,personality and wealth  but they are too busy to spare time  once you are permanently bedridden ( lost value). So also (be it HS or LS) keep in touch with those simple but kind hearted, compassionate, human who are nice to all .why I say so?? One who is nice to all will also always be nice to you but those who are shrewd,   different with different people, different in different circumstances are opportunists/ dual personality and may change colour when u need them and they don't need u) .

 

9.      In old age many have to be hospitalized frequently. My mother was hospitalized 5 times in 2 yrs.

Have u / your family/ friend/ neighbor/ staff have kept tel. nos. of ambulance etc ready?

 My father is surviving today because:

                                                        I.            My neighbor saw him in desperately gasping/ breathless position and woke us up at 2 am. (Ours is olden type of house where each room opens in common passage and there r neighbors too living in adjacent rooms).

                                                      II.            I had in my mobile all tel. nos. of ambulances. But incidentally only Tops responded and came in no time. (I don't think even today anyone in my family has ambulance nos.  ready with them , check if u and ur family members have???)

                                                    III.            We swiftly shifted him to casualty in a good hospital whom I knew will give very good emergency care and stabilize him without first asking for money and wasting time. I salute Hindujas for this gift (facility) to my city and several times they have proved to be more than expectations.

                                                   IV.            Credit card for immediate purpose for admission and other payments and health insurance of good value are next rescuers.

Do u have such neighbors', alarm, tel. no's of ambulance, knowledge of good hospital (and their ethical way of charging), credit card, health insurance??????  (If this mail is waking u up abt health insurance then be loyal and thankful by buying health insurance from me if u are in India and specially in Mumbai).

10.  If u have not done / seen a particular type of work and specially something like changing clothes soaked in potty of adult person then how will u be able to do it when required??

Therefore if you keep your elders like grandparents, parents with you and attend to them nicely then chances are your children will become familiar / aware/ responsible and all hesitation will vanish when u become old and dependant. If your children have not seen you sparing time for sr. citizens, bearing their tantrums, helping in their difficulties, running for their well being then chances are they will not be able to cop up with all that when u become bedridden. In that case book a place in old aged home which guarantees good comfortable stay for life time.

 

11.   Teeth: Most people neglect their teeth rather spoil them purposely by chewing all that junk, paan, paan masala, tobacco, etc..Jainism strictly wants you to not to keep your mouth jhuta ( chewing / food ). As Jainism is more of science and way of living and not a religion it tells you many do and don'ts for day to day healthy life style. So if you keep your mouth full of all junk like tobacco, frequent tea etc then they are likely to be spoilt faster than your age. Finally eating normal food becomes difficult. And then you have to depend only on soft or liquid food. Person with healthy teeth can eat well and get full nourishment. I have seen many sr. citizens unable to eat many things and often normal food also has to be grounded well in mixer grinder as they can't chew food properly. Keep your teeth healthy for your old age. And if spoilt then do not hesitate to go for dentures / implants at right time as delaying too much will make difficult to go for them. Consult Dr. Aksha Jain (dentist) the best implantologist I know. Write to me for her email id. 

12.   If you have sufficient money for secured old age then start giving attractive things in your life time to your daughter in law etc as after you it will be theirs but you are not there to get positive reaction of same. Many parents leave Jagir / saltanat/ huge wealth for heirs but do not give small bit of it in gift on occasion / exam results  to children / relatives/ staff with their own hand. Do it and see joy and change in attitude and improved relationship.

Do not want to go on and on. The mail is already very long. But pl. write back to me in few words your point of view on this mail. This has taken my many hours. Pl. spend two minutes to evaluate if u have read.

 

Finally : my 5% movement: If u just save 5% on your consumption of water, electricity, fuel then u can accumulate enough for ur old age. …Alok

 

I always feel I am not given food,attention ..I feel I am neglected, left out...Alok

Forward this or not , deliberate on this in ur meetings, family, nukkad, let
WHO ( world health Org.) call meeting on this, let some one bombard civic body,
let pharma and Medicos oppose this mail (as they will be affected due to this mail ??)
or do whatever u like except wishing to kill me for this mail as I have not written
this mail ......It is Atma may be ghost of a senior citizen who came in me
and wrote all this ......sorry for bothering u again and again...

Ur feedback and Kickback r welcome......Alok






I always feel i m not given some thing. That i m given less. That there r many attractive items in others plate. That all good tasty is served to others but not me. See after all I m growing old I can’t understand many things. My vision is becoming bad. In my youth I had seen such things happening at many places where sr. citizen’s r ignored, given stale food etc. So it has gone deep in mind that when I m now old others must be doing same to me. See it is matter of psychology. Can u change??
Many a times since I am week, my digestion is bad, or few items I don’t eat and hence I m not served some items but I think I m being ignored. But as u always learnt education is best thing.. Can't u tell me in advance why I m not being served a particular items which others are relishing, praising and discussing about?

Also wont it be nice to keep everything available ( on menu at that time be it b'fast or lunch or..) on table ( Buffet) so any one can excess any thing he likes instead of asking, wondering whether it is over or available in kitchen. U now my (bad) habit that i feel I become small in asking but I know how to accuse and abuse in the name of being not served or I want to teach that u shud not forget to serve / keep asking / keep doing manuhar. But that is my genetic disorder. Being marwari I m more hungry of dhok (bowing down to feet)/ of Manuhar (pleadingly offering/ repeatedly asking? and of riti rivaj (old traditions).Do u forget ur Sanskar (old habits/ traditions)?? No then why shud I???

And u r fade up attending me??? Is it due to my sickness??

Sickness r of two kinds 1. Due to age 2. Acquired.

Physically at my Age I m near perfect. Acquired?? Yes. Weak can catch faster and can develop side effects faster. Day in and day out new infections r catching??? But is it me alone? Even Balasaheb got it. Why? Is it lack of proper hygiene in which u live and keep me too. Is the Bai’s ( maid / Nurses / Ward boys / paid caregivers) u keep who bring infections in house ( as they live in very poor , bad, infectious surroundings …see Slum dog the gift of Independent India and Rent Act which prohibited rental housing and everybody specially migrants can not afford costly ownership flats developed by bureaucrats, politicians and mafias+ Builders).
Is it the adulterated food, milk, medicines?
Is it the food, fruits, vegetables, chaat, bhelpuri brought by u sold in stinking unhygienic infectious footpaths, roadside, above the gutter , infected packing ( old paper etc.), the storeroom of all diseases the vendor who has not bathed for days, not washed his hand after going to…( u know) . Wipes his hand hundreds times on face and nostrils ( and where else…) in sweltering heat and for miles there is no washbasins , no toilet, no loo, no soap for these our favorite bhaiyas, regdiwala, batatawadawalas and all such sellers. While civic body officials and politicians have been making millions from these stall keepers, sellers but innocent (careless) citizens have been falling sick and spending trillions on health care. They don’t want to encourage official shopping, commercial premises everywhere but unofficially u can encroach, cook and sell from anywhere specially over drain as civic official like that and make more money out of that. Now if un eat that junk and bring infection in the house and being young it does not show on u though u r the carrier but I m made to suffer as infection catches on me fast. And I m suffering but on the top of it u grumble on increase in work and expense. Go out and smash all junk food places and stop bringing home infections instead of saying I the old man is a liability.
Same is with ur love with parties and functions. While the hall and decoration is good but have u ever gone and checked where they cook, what stale food they r using, their cooks, waiters, all have several diseases. And u shake hands with everyone ( instead of saying Namaste with folded hands) and without washing ur hands u start eating food ( as u will never get it again in life ) in the plates which r cleaned by dipping in one single bucket.
But u like that. None of u say we want good hygienic healthy food may be lights and decoration r not there, may be flowers r not there may be music is squeaky. No but all of u praise the expensive clothes, deco, lights more variety. And u demands more. But none demand wash basin on entry, staff wearing gloves, healthy cook, clean kitchen, toilets for catering staff etc. etc. In my times not even I was allowed in kitchen by my granny if I was coming from school, train, hospital (mass contact place where u can catch …..) and food was prepared in Jain Shodhy ( pure ) environment where not every one can enter , not every on e can touch cook, serve etc. items were selected, hand picked, sorted, cleaned and cooked and stored safely. See these caterers how they store cooked food. Mostly these caterers take urchins / sweepers as waiters as they cost less. And Lo u enjoy that food.

OOOOHHHHHH!!! Being old i m now tired...want to say a lot ...... but next time.......

Vande Sr. Citizens

Brisk walk boosts memory in aged

Brisk walk boosts memory in aged

Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, January 2011

A new study shows that older adults who take a brisk walk three times a week do better on memory tests and increase the size of their hippocampus, a portion of the brain involved with memory formation. In otherwise healthy adults the hippocampus shrinks by about 1 to 2 percent a year, and the decrease is even more rapid among people with dementia. Brain shrinkage is associated with memory impairment in the elderly. The findings suggest that loss of brain volume in old age can be delayed, and may even be reversible.  The researchers say that even modest amounts of exercise by sedentary older adults can lead to substantial improvements in memory and brain health and such improvements have important implications for the health of older adults worldwide.

To, Mr Vijay mallaya...King fisher Airlines

Purposely I have mixed up two issues . 1 Sr. Citizens and their loneliness and failure of Society to provide them company .2. Communication failure and lack of compassion towards passengers including towards ailing sr. Citizens by Kingfisher Airlines.

 

Dear Shri Vijay Malaya,

Namaskar.

Man and Machine can fail but why communication and hospitality

My mother aged 84 years has not been well for last over six months. She is hypertensive (high B.P.) and is very weak and is suffering from incontinence. Her cornea has been damaged and thus has Low vision. Therefore she cannot do household jobs to pass time. She cannot view TV .She cannot go out even to temple due to physical condition and condition of footpaths in our country. Being at home for long time she was feeling that there should be some change in life. But except for temples for sr. Citizens we have nothing here. She must have attended hundreds of guests over lunch or dinner but None in turn want to invite this ailing women even over a cup of tea (and tea is not important but change is).Those whom we thought have been close to our parents and when they invited us to a party then we took our parents along as they like to mix with all their old near and dear ones. But we were in different language advised to not to take them to such functions like why you are troubling these old parents. When it does not trouble me and when my parents get happiness then what is their problem?  And as far as hosts are concerned when they are having hundreds of guests and spending in thousands and even in lacs then attending few sr. Citizens will make them poor? But no one wants to give some warmth, time and happiness in the life of Sr. Citizen. Neither by visiting them nor by inviting them. So the 24 hrs. of Sr. Citizens is like a whole year and time does not get spent easily.

In the given situation we wanted to give my mother some change (and also we had to go out of Mumbai and simultaneously wanted to carry out some painting work in her room) .Luckily news came that Kingfisher has started flights to Nanded where my sister stays. We convinced her about private airlines being good and safe and also convinced her that Kingfisher is a very good airline and that all airlines fully take care of the unaccompanied old ailing passengers and that they will take full responsibility till she is handed over to relatives.

Somehow she got convinced and was happy that she was going out for some days. She was booked on a Kingfisher Red flight leaving at 5.50 pm on 18^th Nov.2008.

We all got up at about 4 am. After readying her we reached Kingfisher Red counter at airport at 5 a.m.. We were given a porter with a wheel chair. Though he seemed to be a nice man but we still tipped him so that we have added confidence that she will be properly taken care of. We asked on your counter whether we need to wait till plane takes off which they advised us against. We also asked if there was any form/ card with sling to be filled up with our details should Airlines require to contact us. They again replied in negative and wheeled her inside. We too left. On way we called up my sister that we have dropped mummy and that they should collect her at arrival time of 7.20 am. at Nanded Airport.

At 7 .30 am my sister called asking me to check that by how much time the flight is late? Being sleepy I told her to find at her Airport itself. She insisted that they have no communication from Mumbai. I told her to wait for some more time. However she called me up at 7.50 am again declaring that flight has been cancelled. I was taken aback and sprang from bed as I realised that it is nearly 3 hours we dropped my mother and in what condition she is? Specially she does not understand English may not understand much of announcements. I also feared if she gets disturbed then her B.P. will also shoot up which can cause any damage (though she was given all her medicines).I reached Airport with my son in ten minutes. We rushed to Kingfisher Red counter. Asked for my mother as their flight has cancelled. To our shock the lady on counter said flight has left .When I insisted that I have confirmed news that same has been cancelled. Then she started checking by calling one Rahul and some other no..For 15 minutes she struggled and when I lost my cool she ran inside the airport and returned after some times and agreed that flight has been cancelled but could not say where the passengers are. Then I started shouting as I feared mummy's B>P> level shooting up. So she called some senior Shiva. He was even carrying Walky talky. He too did not know the Nanded flight has been cancelled and where the passengers are. Then another senior lady came. She could not help us but warned me to not to raise my voice or she will call the security. I shouted and called the security and explained them the seriousness and irresponsible behaviour of Kingfisher. They in turn asked her to solve my problem. However in the meanwhile my son who was looking for some clue reached arrival section and came to know that all passengers have been kept here. However he was not allowed in by security on gate. Then he gave me call and I asked him to go to Airport manager. He was very sympathetic and sent an escort and let my son inside. No sooner my son approached my mother she who was by now in dazed condition started crying. My son pointed out this to even your Mr. Rahul. On way back my mother requested us that hence forth never to send her alone as she was in that shocked state.

 

And on return flight: Flight Kingfisher IT 4145 dt Dec 17^th2008-12-26

We booked the ticket in advance. Several warnings were given time to time like carry I card, carry Xerox of credit card if u have used others card for booking. But no warning was given

A)     That mother being old must be accompanied by an escort.

B)      Being old she should carry fitness certificate from a doctor.

So an hour before the dep. Time when she reached the Nanded airport the Kingfisher Manger on airport refused to allow her without fitness certificate and without the person accompanying.

All persuasion and arguments failed and finally one person accompanied my mother by buying ticket on spot and checked in without baggage.

Now my humble submissions:

 You spend money on high salary, costly uniform, interiors, costly calendar with semi nude costly models etc. Etc. Then why not:

1.       Give discounts to senior citizens?

2.       Why not upgrade your communication system? The moment flight is cancelled / rescheduled the SMS should go to all your staff and relevant passengers.

3.       One of the relative of physically challenged passenger ( be child, old, sick etc...) can be advised to wait till flight takes off and if abnormal delay is there then they should be allowed to be together.

4.       Why not train your staff to be compassionate and empower them to take extra ordinary measures to ensure that pleasure of clients and memories of clients are not extinguished. Sometimes it may cost you but will give you rich dividends in terms of blessings and increased loyalty.

5.       There is a compulsory requirement of putting a tag on all luggages. But no requirement for dependant clients?  Make a system that all such passengers wear a badge ( like most corporate give to their employees) which should contain details of relatives ( those who have come to drop and those who will receive such passengers at other end )with their emergency mobile nos. Even brief condition of health and languages understood should be written on 'unaccompanied traveller' card.

6.       The notice board with contact details and email id of responsible persons must be provided on every counter/office of yours. This will make ur staff more responsible and seniors will get first hand info on how ur clients are treated.

 

When Vilasrao Deshmukh announces subsidy in 24 hrs. for airlines on your appeal then why not respond to my appeal which is for senior citizens.

 

Hope u will do the needful and set an example in aviation industry about human approach towards all but specially towards sr. citizens, physically challenged.

 

 

 

Thanks and Regards,
Alok Tholiya